Who is driving?
/
A chauffeur-driven Town Car sped by me on the way to work today. I
wondered who was being driven, where they were going, what filled their day’s
agenda, and what their lives were like. I also wondered about the driver: who
was he, what was on his day’s agenda, what his life was like. The person who
directed where the car goes is in the back, but the person who knows the route
to get to the desired destination is driving in the front.
Which of those two jobs is harder?
On most days, it is probably more difficult to be the driver, right? The
drive has to:
-
Know route options
- Anticipate traffic or construction
- Choose which route is best
- Reacting when something unexpected happens
- Keeping the car prepared for the trip
- Keep all passengers safe
- Know and follow the laws
- Be nice to the passengers
-
Know where the car should end up
- Pay the driver’s fee
Obviously, both roles are important and both people only succeed when
they work together. The driver has nothing to do if no one wants to go
somewhere. The passenger has no way to get where they want to go if there is no
driver. One is not more important than the other. They are just different. They
need to respectfully rely on each other.
None of us likes a backseat driver. When you are the passenger, know
your destination and let the driver do his job. Micro-managing will not help
the driver or your trip. Likewise, passengers do not like a driver who
questions, judges, or doubts our destination. Remember, sometimes each of us is
a driver and sometimes each is a passenger. Know your role.
What about those solo trips? Sometimes we travel alone and have to know
the destination and how to reach it. If we don’t set our own destination and
route, we end up following others or roaming aimlessly, which makes
accomplishment and any sense of success unlikely.
Whether you are the driver or the passenger, support everyone who’s
along for the trip. The mutual support makes the journey more enjoyable and the
destination more meaningful.